February 3, 2006
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Well, it’s certainly been a long time since I’ve posted here hasn’t it?
An update…
Christmas was nice and I even got a new tree this year.
I had a fiber optic one, but unfortunately the kids burned out the motor from leaving it on so much last year. 
But the new tree is beautiful!
I’ve been to the doctor a couple of times since I last updated you all. This last time he sent me into a dietician to have an evaluation done. She was nice…a little odd, but nice. He also put me on Meridia (another diet medication)…the approval for that medication took about 3 weeks by my insurance…but they did approve it. I don’t really see a difference being on this medication either though. Oh well, the doctor has already stated that on my next visit (2/13) that he will write the letter of recommendation for me to have the weight loss surgery.
I’m now looking forward to really getting the ball rolling on this whole thing. I hate waiting…I have absolutely NO patience, so as you can imagine, I’m not handling this whole waiting game very well and I know that there’s a lot of more of that to come. Hopefully though, I will be able to have my surgery before Jason’s birthday in April…that would be wonderful, but if not…then I guess that I will just have to wait my turn.
Other than that…everything has been pretty calm, well…until this last week anyway. Jason is still awaiting his teaching license…all has been submitted, just waiting for approval. That’s not the main thing I was referring to though. Oh no…this one got my blood pressure sky rocketing!
My ex-husband decided the other day that he wants to be allowed to claim our 3 children on his income taxes, so he’s petitioned the court to do so.
Now mind you, the children reside with me and I have custody of them. He pays child support…but it’s not even enough to cover my weekly grocery bill, let alone actually help support the kids beyond that. I provide all medical and dental coverage for them along with life insurance. Jason and I also pay for ALL other necessities for them (i.e. school fee & supplies, clothes – which aren’t cheap, etc.). I’ve never taken him back to court to raise the amount of child support because well…that’s just not what I’m about. He hasn’t had any easy go of it financially…well, but neither have we. He decided a couple of years ago to take it upon himself to claim 2 of our three kids on his income tax and I think now he’s paying for it.
Our divorce decree states that I am the sole custodian of the children and that I’m the ONLY one allowed to claim them on my income tax. They reside with me and visit him on the weekends…well, most of the time anyway. He has them about 28% of the year and I have them the rest of the time. Now he’s trying to claim that he has them more than that and pays out more than 50% of their financial support…which is BS. It’s impossible, not with the little amount that he pays in child support.
Anyway, I had to file a response yesterday morning. I’m sure that the court will dismiss the whole thing considering the evidence that I provided in my response. That’s not even the point though…the point is that when I asked him about this whole thing he flat out admitted to me that he just wants the money!!
It has nothing to do with the children at all…he says that he’s “sick of drowning in debt…not being able to pay bills”. Well, I’m very sorry…but that’s not my problem and I’m most certainly not going to allow him to take the money that I’ve rightfully earned to pay off his debt. Hell, I’m still paying off the debt that he accrued on my credit cards while we were married!
Oh…and it gets better. He didn’t just ask the court if he could claim the kids…he wants to do it biannually starting as of 2005 tax period. Yup…he’s totally trying to screw me. I’ve claimed the kids ALL this last year because, well…I’m entitled to and he knows that. If her were allowed to claim them now before filing last year’s taxes…I would be paying out the ass!!
He also told me that he’s not trying to start a war or create problems for me. Yeah right!! Whatever…tell it to someone who believes you.
Outside of that…things have been just fine.
How are all of you?
Comments (6)
geeeee….all the turmoil
hopefully things go in your favor with the taxes.
also, hopefully everything goes along schedule with the dr.s visit and the surgery! good luck……
Wow, thats not fair that he is trying to claim the kids, and it seems rather selfish, but you should win that so, hopefully that goes well
If the court doesn’t dismiss the whole thing, I will lose all faith in our judicial system. That’s ridiculous!
I hope you get your doctor’s okay and the ball gets rolling. Once it does, I hope the surgery and recovery go smoothly. Take care!
And congratulations to Jason on getting everything done for his teaching license!
I see I got you to post as well– but you’re the only one who’s commented on mine! Oh well… I love you and as always, we will get through all this, buttheads be damned
sorry for all your problems will pray for you.
I’m sorry about the trouble that’s going on.