November 16, 2002
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Days 16 & 17 of Give Thanks
Yup…I’m doing a 2 for 1 deal here…haha.
I’ve got some things to take care of this weekend so I most likely won’t have time to post tomorrow. 
I will do my best to get around to all of your sites
…but I apologize ahead of time if I don’t. Sorry y’all…but I’m sure that y’all know how it is…I am Mom ya know. 
First…before I begin, I’d like to say Thank You so much for the wonderful comments and well wishes on my previous post…y’all are just awesome! The ring truly is beautiful and the pic that I posted of it just does NOT do it justice at ALL…and Jason is an absolute sweetheart!
Thanks for wishing us well. 
Okay…for Day 16 I would like to say that I’m thankful that my ex-husband and I still get along as well as do. We decided that when we went our separate ways that we would do our best to retain our friendship…and that’s not always an easy thing to do especially since I’m involved with someone and he’s not. However, I finally talked him into dating again…believe me, this was not an easy task!!
He’s in that phase where he states that he doesn’t want anything to do with the opposite sex 
…but I think that’s not completely true. 
Anyway, for the most part we do get along quite well and we can still talk about things in a cooperative manner…which is so important for the kids.
In fact, the girls are going over to his house today for the weekend..(Jason and I are thankful for that as well..hehe
…we get to pretend that we only have 2 little ones for a day or so…haha
). The girls love spending time with their dad…and I’m glad that they do get the opportunity to do so. However, I wish that he’d spend more time with the twins than what he does. I believe it’s because the boys require more attention and you have to watch them constantly. Not exactly something that he’s ever enjoyed doing.
He’s supposed to be getting a place of his own soon…free of roomates etc., so hopefully he will spend more time with them after that.
I’m just afraid that he’s going to ruin his relationship with them by only seeing them for 5 to 10 minutes a week…not exactly quality time ya know. I just don’t want them to feel any resentment towards him…that just wouldn’t be a good thing at all.
For Day 17…I’m thankful that after attending all of the parent/teacher conference for the kids, I can say that they are all doing extremely well in school!
My oldest, Dora, is in 5th grade and her favorite class is Science, which also happens to be the most difficult class that she has. She is only one out of two children in a class of over 30 that is getting an A in that class. Pretty cool eh?
My youngest daughter, Corin…is in preschool, but according to her teachers, if she could read…they advance her to first grade. Of course when Corin heard this, she turned to Jason and said, “Jason…teach me to read. I figure that I should be able to do it on my own by tomorrow if you teach me today.” To which both Jason and I laughed….and then explained to her that it’s not quite that simple.
Jonah and Caleb are both progressing very well in their classes. Jonah has a habit of talking extremely fast…to the point that it’s difficult to understand him. So, they have been working on slowing his speech down and his articulation. He is doing better…but still has a ways to go before he’ll have it to where it should be.
When I went to Caleb’s conference I sat down with not only his teachers…but his therapists as well. He has progressed so much in the past 2 weeks that they were all just totally blown away by it! In fact, they told me that he has already mastered most of the goals that we had set for him at the beginning of the year!! I was also told that we will have to be a bit creative in setting new objective for him at his annual evaluation next month. That was music to my ears!!
Well…that’s my thanks for this weekend. I hope that y’all are having a wonderful weekend!!
I will try to visit all of you within the next couple of days.
~Maria
Comments (15)
what a happy message…it warms my soul and sounds like Jason is just the right person for all of you
so much to be thankful for… you are an absolute sweetheart as well… one of the many reasons why I love you
As long as you stress how much their Father loves them and talk about him in that manner, they will not grow up to resent him. After all..I think I can count on my fingers and toes how many times I’ve seen my Dad after I was 8 and he lost custidy of me. Not that that is bad, my Father scares me. But it helped that my Mom always talked about him in a loving and understanding manner. She always stated the reasons he was the way he was, and tried to explain why my Dad would hurt me to the best ability that she could..Not excuse it, but try and get me to understand that he was not mentally well.
Anyway, always speak like that to them about their Father, reassure them how much he loves them..And they will never doubt it.
I agree with SilverJune, my mother was good about not putting my dad down too much and I never resenting him for who he is. She always explained why it didn’t work and I just sorta “got it”. Their splitting up was hard the first few months. But after that, it just sorta made sense. And I’m glad mom was cool about it.
Have a wonderful weekend!
Thankful you are happy..
Isn’t that Wonderful when Teachers have something nice to say?? Congrats..and for the ring too..it’s stunning!
My Ex-husband and I have remained friends ever since we divorced over 14 years ago. It wasn’t easy to do during the time he was married to wife number 2, but that marriage didn’t last long. While we were married he had affairs one right after another, until one weekend we went on a camping trip to the mountians. That Friday night after we got our tent set up, I finally got the courage to point blank ask him why kept doing it. We talked, cried, laughed and prayed together that entire weekend (night and day). Finally by 3:00 Sunday afternoon, he and I had worked the puzzle to his life that had made him keep on doing it. From that moment on to this day, he has never cheated on me or any other woman again. Unfortunately we divorced a little over a year after that. By then he and I had grown so far apart, our interests were in such opposit directions we just decided it was best for both of us to go our own ways. One of the best decisions I ever made.
wow!! I’m happy for you!! Its nice to hear that things are going smooth for you…
You take care. aight?! God Bless…
I admire you and your ex for working to maintain a friendship. Not everyone can do that and you are right – it is very important for the kids.
My ex and I “got together” for years after our divorce– his present wife really hates me because she knows how he never wanted our divorce and didn’t get married again until way after i’d gotten married to MyKidzDad… I’ve met her, but my ex and MKD have still NEVER met!
I am so happy for ya that the your kids are doing so well in school… for whatever reason, MyKidz doing well in any area of their lives acts as a validation for me as a mom.
Have a great week!!!
well, hope your weekend was good.
and again the ring was beautiful! you got a doll there.
Heya! It is so great to hear that all these wonderful things are happening! Especially that your kids are so enthusiastic about school! That is excellent, and I know they will keep it up!! Take care and it is so nice that you are recognizing all things you are thankful for! Keep smiling!
You have a smart little one!
just checking in…
ILYVM!