January 18, 2003
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Inquiring Minds Want To KNOW…
Why is it that some people feel that they need to leave comments on other people’s sites when they don’t really have anything constructive or relative to say?
Now…I’m not saying that people shouldn’t be honest when commenting…no, not at all. I totally want people to be honest when commenting on my site. I am when I visit and comment on other’s…so I expect the same on mine.
What I’m saying is…that if you visit someone’s site and don’t particularly care for what they are blogging or don’t like the way the site looks or don’t have anything to add to the blog etc….that doesn’t mean that you have to comment.
Constructive criticism is one thing…even disagreeing with what is stated in a blog is not a bad thing by any means…but to just out right be rude and demeaning…THAT is just uncalled for and not welcome.
Xanga is a place for all of us to interact with each other and learn more about other people. It gives us a chance to voice our opinions on subjects and such…but there is a difference between using Xanga for it’s actual purpose…and using it to just be belittling and cruel. I know that we have the option to block users now…but it’s not something that I really WANT to have to do on my site. I’ve never been one to post anything that I felt would be offensive or whatever…but if I do, it is not intentional.
The way I see it is that we all have a right to state whatever we like on our sites. If people like what they read or see on a person’s site and want to comment…cool…go for it. However, if you have something to say that is inappropriate or not even pertaining to the person’s blog or is personal to the owner of the site and isn’t exactly a public topic…then please, be an adult and email the person to tell them how you feel..don’t post it publicly. When you do that…the only person that you are making look like an ass…is YOU.
Thanks!
Have a great weekend y’all!!!
~Maria
Comments (11)
Well said! I wish more people would get that! Have a great weekend!
Sometimes people get wrapped up in what the just read and their emotions sort of take over and they probably aren’t thinking clearly. You’re right, an email would be much more appropriate. So, I won’t tell you what I really think of you Maria….at least not here! I’ll jot down all my nasty thoughts and send them to your inbox. Get ready!
ROFL….you know I’m kidding right? I think you are one of the most wonderful people on Xanga and I would never say (or even THINK) and bad thought about you girl! Thanks for being such a positive role model for me, ok? *hugs*
LOL at Mystery’s comment..I know what you mean..sometimes I think people do that for attention…
Sadly these goofs come out of the woodwork.. one disappears and another shows up. It is silly and immature and I hope to ignore it unless it really ticks me off. Then watch out!
Yes, as Christy said, they come out the woodwork, or woodpile, or from under their rocks. What irritates me the most though is that they all seem to have a band of “buddies” that will descend too, and make things even more strained. I love the blocking…it is a Godsend. I don’t mind if anyone disagrees with what I write, and says so on any post at all, or even in mails, but if it is not done as a civilized person would, I’ll sure use it. I have had enough harassment and hurt from people from this site to last me my whole lifetime…and will not tolerate any more. ..there is no need to put up with that simply to write.
I agree on that!! but i think most of peeps nowadays are irresponsible for their behavior and acting nasty, hurting other peeps feelin’!! just felt sorry for them that they’re making a FOOL outta themselves..
God Bless & take carez
wow…well, some people are aholes… i guess….. i have gotten some not so nice comments in the past. but i’ll just delete them…..i can get touchy on some subjects tho! we’re all human i suppose.
hope you had a wonderful weekend!
Preach it sister!
I went to said person’s site–seems flaming and stirring up stuff is their pleasure anyway… People like that I try to ignore since feedback seems to only feed them, but it’s hard not to say or do anything… I had one who said he thought it was “hot” the way I “wasted space” with meaningless writing and useless pictures, or something like that. I went to his site…seems he’d said similar things to about 20-30 other people too. I think I left one comment that didn’t relate to anything at all, and dropped it.
Thank you for writing this. I am dealing with this currently and probably not doing a very good job of dealing either. I am not one to censor, so I haven’t deleted any of the horrible comments and I don’t really want to block, but I will if I have to.
I think is all about respecting one another. I ahve disagreed with people, but I like ot think I disagreed respectfully. Some of the comments left on my siter were certainly not left out of respect. That is for sure. *sigh*
Anyway – great blog and I appreciate your thoughts and support. *hugs*