May 12, 2003
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Thank you to all of you who have sent me emails and such regarding my last post. They were all very much so appreciated and I apologize to those that I haven’t replied back to.
Some of you may know or may have guessed that we were in Georgia attending Jason‘s Dad’s funeral…well we tried to anyway.
See, the funeral was scheduled for 2pm on the 7th and we were scheduled to arrive in Atlanta at 11:47am, which would’ve given us plenty of time to get there. However, once we arrived to the airport here in Denver we were informed that our flight had been delayed and wouldn’t arrive in Atlanta until 1:22pm…which would make us late for the service. This, of course, upset Jason greatly and I was feeling beyond awful about the situation.
But, Jason and I tried to look on the bright side of things and saw it as it was better than not getting there at all. So onward we went and we boarded the plane.
We were about 20 minutes into the flight when the pilot announced that “due to severe weather over Kansas and Tennessee, we will have to make a detour through Texas that will delay our arrival time to 1:54pm”. WHAT???? Is he kidding??
Jason and I just looked at each other in total disbelief.
He was going to miss his own father’s funeral!! 
Well, we talked it over….and over…and over almost all the way there. No matter how we looked at it now, there was no way that we’d make it to the service in time. Jason was crushed…and I felt completely and totally helpless.
We landed at the Atlanta airport at 1:40pm…but didn’t get off the plane until 2pm. By the time we got our rental car and got out of the airport it was 2:48pm. We’d missed the funeral completely.
There wasn’t anything that we could do about it…which just made it that much more difficult to deal with. So, we drove over to his Mom’s house to see if she had returned home yet. She hadn’t…so we went over to a restaurant to eat, considering neither one of us had eaten anything since about 4am that morning.
We eventually made our way back over to his Mom’s house and it wasn’t long after we arrived that she and his brothers returned. We explained to them what had happened and they completely understood and tried to console Jason a bit, but he still felt as if there was something that he could’ve done to prevent the whole thing. He and I had already gone through the should’ve/could’ve conversation…and well, that just never corrects anything.
We decided to try to make the best out of what time that we did have down there with his Mom and siblings. So we sat and talked with Mom a great deal about everything that had gone on with his Dad and also about brighter subjects…like our engagement.
Of course it will take some time for everyone to get to a point where they will be able to move on from the loss of their father/husband…but I think that all of us having spent some time together may help the process along a little bit.
We’ve been just trying to get back into the groove of life since we returned home. It’s difficult to do after going through a tragedy of that sort.
So…that’s the update on us. I have a great deal to catch up on…so I will hopefully be able to do so soon.
I hope that you all are doing well and have a good week!
~Maria
Comments (13)
Im sorry. that sounds terrible.
Oh poor Jason
And his poor family, too, they must have missed him terribly. Still ~ these things can’t be helped, and while a funeral is sometimes cathartic in saying goodbyes, sometimes goodbye can be said in other ways.
I’m so glad that you were all able to celebrate to some degree over your engagement
Maria, your positive personality is such a blessing to your readers! This was a horrible situation and could have been told 2 different ways. As a victim or as someone who didn’t feel like a victim. You could have carried on and on about how terrible life treated Jason etc etc etc. But you didn’t. You know….I’m SO glad that of ALL the people that could have been there with him during this difficult situation, it was YOU. You know…I guess you’re kinda like “a spoonful of sugar” huh? You make the medicine go down so much better.
Big HUGE hugs to you girl! 
I’m so sorry you guys had to go through this. My thoughts will be with you.
That’s awful. I hope the people we know who are really responsible for this are happy with themselves. Pisses me off utterly. I don’t want to meet them now…this is totally and needlessly cruel and inexcusable.
This has really got me angry. I’m not forgiving when people I care about are hurt like this.
I’m terribly sorry for your loss, but I’m happy that you can still look at the bright side of life.
I am sorry for Jason and what happened about the funeral it must be hard for him but at least he has you
Life goes on… I’m just glad you were there for me and with me through all of this. I couldn’t have made it through without you, my love…
I’m soo sorry to hear about this, that’s just awful. But I’m sure Jason knows that it’s not necessary for him to be at the service to properly honour his father and say goodbye, everyone can do it in their own way. But that’s truly awful, I hope you’re both going okay.
Condolences…
That is just terrible. I would write a complaint letter to the airline explaining the circumstances and tell them the problems caused your husband to miss his father’s funeral. I was stuck in traffic trying to get to my dying mother.. I made it to her bedside 15 minutes AFTER she died because of a bad wreck on the freeway. It still bothers me to this day almost 4 years later. (((HUGS))) to you.
So sorry that Jason and you had to go through this. I’m praying that in the long run, he will come to see that he did not fail his Father. He was no less a good son because of circumstances beyond his control. You just continue to be there for him and give him time to grieve. I’m just sorry that his Dad won’t be there to celebrate your wedding with you.