July 18, 2003
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Anyone want a 4 year old?
I’ve been a Mom for 11 years now and I thought that I’ve dealt with my fair share of childlike antics…however, I’m at a point where I just don’t know what to do anymore in regards to my son Jonah.
Now, keep in mind that my twin boys (Caleb & Jonah) are as opposite as they could possibly be. Caleb is so calm and peaceful (most of the time) and easily entertains himself. He is very loving and rarely bothers a soul.
Jonah, on the other hand, while he CAN be a loving child and I believe that he truly has a good heart…just does not make good decisions when it comes to knowing right from wrong. I know that he understands the difference, he just chooses not to make the correct choice. Now some of you are saying, “but he’s only 4″…yup, you’re right, he IS only 4…but he is also very intelligent and advanced for his age.
So I’ve decided that before he burns down the house, injures himself or one of his siblings…that he should try spending more time with his father. So he will be staying with my ex for the majority of his time until next month when school starts. I think that if I can see whether or not he is continuing to behave in the same manner for his dad then maybe we can come up with a solution, or if he isn’t doing the same things with his dad, maybe I can figure out why.
I don’t know…all I DO know is that I love him…but I’m so beyond frustrated that I don’t know what else to do right now.
~Maria
Comments (13)
lol.. Frustration.. ahh.. Hopefully he will straighten up with his father. I wonder how the boys will do apart??
I’ll take the 4 y.o. if you’ll take my 8 y.o. PMS’y child!
I too wonder what the boys think about been apart . My Daughters partner is a twin and there having lots of problems between the two of them but when it comes down to it they are there for one another
Aw, that’s tough… I hope things can get sorted out well. It could just be stage, right? Anyway, good luck to you and I hope things work out!
Sometimes boys have a problem sharing their mother. This may be what is happening now if this a behavior that has started since you and Jason have been together. Otherwise…just might be that he has problems with the divorce..or that he has problems period…or that he is a boy
Any way you look at it I am send a good luck to you 
Things will work out. Maybe Dad can give you a solid hand.. You have a great weekend..
kids…..i wish i knew the answers to them, all 3 of mine have their own ways and views as well…and sometimes twins are so different..in a way its a good thing.
hmm.. you know, my 3yr old has been playing up since I’ve moved out. A cry for attention?
I know I am not in a place to give you the correct advice? But don’t fret. Moms, Grampas, and Dads all go through the stress of having children. I have a 10-month old, and shes got a temper! (Like her daddy
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I hope you feel better, and I commend you for having the patience and ability to speak out about how you feel.
Get better soon!
Some time with his father might be a good idea.
***HUGS***
aw. well you know how boys are. lol. but i hope things can be solved!! =)
cant wait till hockey season!! =)
Maybe he’s trying to be as different from his twin as he can, and in doing so he is making you be different with him than you are with the other one. Boy, it sounded so much less confusing before I typed it. He sounds like a curious ball of wonder, constantly challenging and inspecting how the world operates. Maybe he’s going to be a rich genius? We can hope.
Good luck, I’ll send you thoughts of comfort and patience. 
All I can say is I’m with you all the way with him (and everything else) I love you!