December 15, 2004
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Well…the good news is that Dora was able to sing last night at her choir concert!
They sounded wonderful for a group of seventh graders. 
The bad news is that Dora and I had an altercation this morning regarding her taking some of her grandma’s possessions and attempting to give them to her teachers as gifts. 
The shit thing about it is that I already have gifts for her teachers…all she had to do was ask. 
Some of you may remember that over the summer I had a problem with Dora because she stole a necklace from Mervyns, where her grandma works…it was a huge ordeal because my mom covered for her on it and didn’t tell me about the situation until a while later. Anyway, in order to attempt to teach Dora how serious this could’ve been…I confiscated all of her jewelry from her. I was trying to teach her that when you steal…you could possible lose everything…and it’s not worth it.
Apparently my efforts were in vain because she didn’t learn. So…we’ll just have to keep trying and talking about the difference between right and wrong on this. I think that she knows the difference…but she chooses the wrong option. I was also very angry with her because not only did she take things from her grandma…but when I confronted her with it, she lied to me about it. Btw…she’s an awful liar and always has been. She’s NEVER gotten away with lying to me…ever…and yet, she still attempts to do so.
Anyway…that’s my gripe for the day. It’s kind of bummed me out…
Comments (12)
hopefully its just a stage…. one that sucks having to go through. good luck
It’s always hard when our kids do something that we know is wrong and when we have a hard time getting through their little heads it makes us unhappy. I’m sure it is just a stage and she’ll come out of it fine..just keep doing what you’re doing..she’ll get it eventually. *hugs*
I am sorry for what you are going through. I think that we have all been through the lieing thing. I tried everything from grounding her to taking everything away. Its hard to ground them at this age b/c like my daughter she really doesnt go a lot of places and b/c she has ADHD she doesnt have a lot of friends b/c they dont know how to deal with that real well. Lets hope if we stick it out and keep drilling it into their heads someday they will wake up and say…now I see what my mom was trying to tell me all this time. Keep your chin up!
Being a mom can be so hard sometimes. You will get through to her eventually and although it may not seem like she’s listening to you, she is. This is probably just a faze that she will grow out of in time.
-Lorie-
Being a mother is never easy. You are doing a good job and hopefully the message will finally get there!
As Nanny says its always hard to me a Mum
I hope the concert goes well
Oh wow thats too bad, I hope that you get it resolved and she realizes how serious it is
I’m sorry that you’re going through this. Sometimes I think 7th graders are from another planet. When I catch Matt lying I remind him that not only is he a liar, but he’s a bad liar so he’d do well to stay out of politics.
I feel ya… I once grounded daughter for “borrowing” someone’s rings (w/o their permission)… To my knowledge, after having been grounded for an entire month, she’s never stolen again. Oh, and I made her write a letter of apology along with having to return “borrowed” rings.
Mommying’s HARD!
sigh. I wish I knew what to do with her. Love you sweetheart
I hate to sound cliche and say it’s a phase (the lies, I mean) but it is disappointing. I think you handled the situation well though, by taking her jewelry from her that first time. Hang in there, mom. These can be tough years, I know.
I’m sorry. You and Jason are great and loving parents.