December 17, 2002
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Okay…I’m at a loss…and really don’t know what I should do.
I received a call from Caleb’s case worker today…not regarding Caleb…or Jonah…or even Corin, but my Mom. It seems that he (and others at the school) have noticed that my Mom is…well, kind of losing it (for the lack of better terms). She overreacts to every little incident. I’ve told her time and time again that it’s not worth getting so upset over…it’s not the end of the world. The kids are just at an age where they test their limitations and sometimes…they go a bit overboard, but they are not out of control or anything like that…even though she acts as if they are. I’m afraid that she’s going to giver herself a coronary if she doesn’t learn to calm down.
I work full time…to support the family. I don’t receive very much money for child support…and I can’t afford daycare. I understand that the kids can drive a person completely bonkers at times…but the only thing to do in that situation is send them to their rooms and take a moment to collect yourself and just breathe, then deal with the situation once you’ve calmed down a bit.
We’ve discussed all of this many times…but it hasn’t changed anything. She even went to the doctor and he put her on some medication to help her cope a little better with things so that she doesn’t get herself so excited over stuff that doesn’t really warrant it. That helped for a little while…but since Grandpa’s death…she’s gotten worse. Jason has seen it…and so have I, but now others are pointing it out as well.
So now what do I do? If I try to talk to her about this…she’ll totally explode. I am concerned…not only for her…but, the kids really can’t deal with being in an environment like that.
I’m at a loss here…
Sorry to post such a problem of this nature…but I needed to let it out…and I seriously don’t know what to do at the moment.
~Maria
Comments (12)
thanks for stopping by today. The party was still going on, so you didn’t miss anything. In fact, i found you to be quit funny and will be doing a blog tomorrow on what everyone did at the party today *wink*
I’m sorry your mom is havinmg such a hard time of it. It’s hard for you too I’m sure. hang in there
Sounds like your mom needs a break, as we all do. I know it is hard, but is there anyway someone else could watch the kids for a month or so, to let your mom collect herself? Maybe all she needs is a break, or another visit to the docs. Good Luck.
Well, sometimes things that we see as not being out of control to us can look much different to others. I have had friends around at the times that pets have been dropped off or picked up from grooming, to me, it’s normal…to them, it is a madhouse. Perhaps, as was suggested, a longer break for her might help, or maybe there is an underlying problem with her health that a doctor could check…either way it does sound like you’ll have to change some things.
I agree that things most definitely need to change. I’ve talked with a few people after posting and I think that maybe some grief counseling and a long talk with her doctor might help her considerably.
I’ve also talked with my ex-husband about taking the kids more…and about him having them for an extended time over the holidays…just to give them a break as well as my Mom. Besides, they need to spend some time with their Dad anyway.
Thanks for the support y’all…you just don’t know how much I appreciate it!
~Maria
They all gave you good advice so I’ll say hi and go on. Hope it all works out great for you.Have a nice evening..
Hugz to you during this hard time! Sure wish you the best.
I’m with Moniet up there ^^ maybe your mom just needs to get re-evaluated by some medical people… and it couldn’t hurt to talk to someone professional over what you’re going thru with her either… visualize the best scenario/outcome, but be prepared to deal with whatever way it turns out.
I;m not quite sure how to tell you to aproach her. But if the problem is now being felt in the rest of every day life, then maybe, you’ll have to take a chance and talk to her. Your right the kids shouldnt have to be in an environment such as that. Im no counselor or anything but do what you feel is best. Seems like you have alot on your shoulders. Wish you the best of luck.
have a good day and rest of the week.
Mothers tend to act that way at times, but maybe as was said she might need small breaks too?
She needs more than a small break… I
you!
I am so sorry to hear about all this and I will definitely keep you in my thoughts. I agree with the other suggestions though – maybe a break and re-evaluation with her doctors.
Take care of yourself too – okay?
My prayers are with you.