January 12, 2004
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Warning…Mom Rant Ahead!!
Okay…so I’d told you that I spent most of my vacation going through the girls’ room and sorting out all of the junk. Well…I also mentioned that my Mom wasn’t fond of my cleaning methods.
With me so far?
So this morning, I had Jason take the items to be donated (toys, clothes, etc) to the drop off…and my Mom went off! She stated that she wants to be the one to drop the clothes since she purchased most of them (she is an obsessive compulsive shopper). As if she can lift anything after having surgery on her right hand and is supposed to DO NOTHING with it for the next 5 weeks!! This is after she completely unleashed her wrath on me last night
telling me how unfair it was that I waited to do this until she was incompacitated etc…um…yeah…okay. I told her that I didn’t wait until she was incompacitated to do all of this…this just happened to be the only chance that I’ve had to do it. To be honest, I really don’t care what shape she is in while I’m doing this…because it doesn’t matter to me…she isn’t involved.
She whined about the fact that I’m just throwing away her money by donating this items. WTF? I didn’t know that giving clothes and toys to children who need them from children who can’t wear or use them anymore is throwing things away!
That is the most selfish thing I’ve heard!! Ya know, my Mom is one of those people who claims to be a Christian…but ONLY when it’s convenient for her! What a hypocrit!!!
To be honest, I don’t care if she likes it or not. I’m not packing away size 12 clothes for my six year old who is barely out of a size 5!! I packed up over 4 bags of clothes!! She acts as if this child will never get any clothes from anyone in the future. She has 3 sets of grandparents and 1 great grandma and upteen number of aunts and uncles and cousins that buy TONS of clothes for her (not to mention the other 3 kids). She is going a bit overboard I think.
Jason told her this morning that he had already taken a bag of clothes and toys over to the drop off. He mentioned that the bag of toys had a couple books in it as well…and she lost her little mind! See, the girls have a TON of books…none of which they take care of or read. Most of them are past their ages…so I said that I was going to sort through them and donate some. She stated that she wanted to “go through” them before I did anything with them. Okay…I agreed to that because some of the books are classics and are hers.
However, I also stated that she doesn’t ever read any of these books…they aren’t being taken care of here…they won’t do any good packed up in a box stuffed away in an attic or storage area. Books are made to be read…not stored.
You can imagine that she didn’t appreciate that statement at all. Well, when Jason mentioned that he saw a book in the toy bag…she exploded!
Going on about how I had said that I’d let her look through them first and all. All of this…without even talking to me to find out that the “book” in question was only a spiral journal that was preprinted and never used …designated for children 3 and up. It was very girlie and the boys couldn’t use it…and the girls didn’t want it.
I’m so sick and tired of being scrutinized over every thing that I do when it comes to MY children by her. She even goes so far as to tell people that SHE is raising MY KIDS!
I don’t even think so!!!
I’ve had it…I’m done.
Comments (13)
I hope ranting helped.
It sounds like your mom is driving you crazy…does she live with you, or only until she recovers from surgery (I’m crossing my fingers for you that this is a temorary situation)? Maria, you are most definitely in my thoughts as you go through this struggle with her. I hope things get better real soon!
-Lorie- {V}
She lives with us…unfortunately. See…7 years ago she lost her job and didn’t have a place to live…and I’d been given a house by my grandfather under the conditions of his estate…so I told her to come live with us. Bad choice on my part I think…but I was trying to be a good daughter.
Now…I just want to shoot her!
i feel your pain. literally. tell her that when she gave them to the kids she gave them. once something is given away. you have no control over it. she needs to let go of the control.
Sorry about the turmoil. Maybe a good thing I didn’t call back today. Michelle and Neil’s Christmas with his family wound be another reality TV series. Lifestyles of the Rich and Nasty, or Survivor Myrtle Beach. They’re consdiered poor end by the others since they live in …cough…Indiana.
Why do people consider a person to be poor if they live in a place where they can afford a house THERE, a car THERE, have a job that – by THEIR standards – is good…? Why? Hmmm…
Anyways, I think that is why my mother lives far away from my grandmother. We hear the criticism every once in a while, and not that often (if so, on the phone), but it’s still there. Oh well…
I’m sorry, Maria. Hey though, you should give me a call, too. You can tell me about your mother and I will tell you about my roommate and the ex-friend. Deal?
Love you all!
oh my goodness. sometimes, my mother is exactly the same way. every time I want to try and get rid of clothes I haven’t worn for over 3/4 years, she gets all “but it still fits” on me. just cuz it fits doesn’t mean I wear it, and if I’m not wearing it, I’d rather have it go to a kid who’d rather wear it. gah…
oh, and all the old books (not dr seuss, of course) have to be stored in boxes for us to bring to our cousins in hong kong. um, they have books there too, mom. except every time she goes, she says, “oh, they’re too heavy to carry!” such a hair-ripping outable situation…
ugh..
I happen to think it is wonderful that you chose to give to others..too bad your mom doesnt feel the same way…
I hope you were able to salvage some what of a good day out of it..
Tina
Not easy…I try not to dictate just to place ideas…and I abide by the decisions of my grown children
aww i sowwy hun!!
hope everything gets better for you this week!! =)
well baby, you know I share your feelings. All I can say is that I’ve always got your back… love you!
Aww I’m sorry, its good to rant though. I just had to say I love your art work its so good!
I love my mum… But I do understand the headache. I shop for mine and if I get one wrong thing, it’s on. heheh… Don’t worry, you’ll love to tell your kids this ”about grandma” when they get older…